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All I Really Want is to Be Happy!

Good Day Readers! I hope that my blog is helping in your venture to finding happiness. I’ve found that some uplifting music always does my spirit good. I do gospel but if you all have noticed by this blog my favorite is India Arie. This sister sure knows what life is all about. She sings all of this beautiful melodies that really reel her listeners in to her philosophical idealisms which is a good thing because she has a great outlook on what life is really all about! So I decided to share a song of of her 1st album with you today.

Next I found a list of 20 things that one needs to let go of to live a happier lifestyle. I hope you find it useful in your voyage!

1. The Approval Of Others

Who gives a sh*t what other people think? If you are happy with the decisions you have made, then whose business is that but your own? Think of how much you could achieve if you stopped letting other people’s opinions dictate the way you live your life. Do you, and engage in whatever actions you think might better your life.

2. Anger/Resentment

Anger will eat at you from the inside. Learn how to make peace with those who have wronged you. This isn’t about letting the other person off the hook; it’s about alleviating the pain that resonates within you. Keep in mind that he who angers you, controls you.

“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.”

3. Negative Body Image

There is only one person’s opinion you should be concerned with when it comes to your body and that is you. No one person determines what the “correct” body type is. If you are comfortable in your own skin, and you are healthy, then that should be the only thing that matters. Do not let others tell you that you’re not beautiful because if you believe you are, then you are.

4. Idea Of A Perfect Partner

There is no such thing as a perfect partner, so throw your checklist out the window. In life, what prevents us from moving forward is looking at the perfect image of a partner we concoct in our minds. Find the right person for you: one that you can love with all your heart, one you feel comfortable with and one that accepts you for the person you are. The sooner you realize there isn’t one perfect person out there for you, the better off you will be.

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley

5. Perfect Life

Just like there is no perfect partner, there is also not a perfect life. Life is what you put into it, so if you are not willing to work hard and put forth effort, you will most likely end up miserable. The choices you make will directly reflect the life you lead. It is up to you to create the best possible world for yourself.

6. You’re Going To Be Rich

Too many people live their lives with the thought that they will be millionaires. While this can be a realistic goal for some, it is not something that can be achieved without hard work and dedication. Stop letting money be your sole motivator; find a career you are passionate about and immerse yourself in it completely.

7. The Idea That Good Fortune Will Arrive At Your Doorstep

You need to go out into the world and actively look for fulfillment. You cannot take a backseat in life and expect things to happen for you. Appreciate the life you live, and be grateful for what you have. Value each minute of every day. Live like there’s no tomorrow, and make the most out of any situation.

8. Excuses

Make no time for excuses. You want to work out, but you don’t have the time? Wake up early and get your gym on. Excuses are only rationalizations that make you feel better about yourself for not doing something you want/need to be doing. You desire results? Stop bitching, and start doing.

 

9. Thoughts Of Your Ex

This person is your ex for a reason. If you are going to think of him or her at all, try and think only about the lessons the experience taught you. Do not linger on any old feelings, as this will only prevent you from being happy with someone else in the future.

10. Stubbornness

I know it’s hard to admit, but sometimes you are just wrong. Other people have just as much capability as you do in providing the correct answer, so stop being stubborn and just embrace it. The less stubborn you act, the more open you are to learning new things. Think of all you could be exposed to if you stopped believing in opinions other than your own.

11. Procrastination

Stop thinking you will finally get to whatever task is at hand tomorrow. Live in the present, and get your sh*t done when it needs to be done. Maximize your time to the best of your ability. Complete each task you need to as soon as you can. This allows you to feel free from worry and stress by getting things out of the way as soon as possible. You also allow yourself more free time to enjoy the things you love.

12. Your Baggage

We have all been hurt one time or another by someone we loved, or we thought we loved. Carrying negative feelings into future relationships will only prove to be disastrous. No two people are the same, so it’s unfair to hold a future partner to a standard set by an ex. Try to begin each new relationship with a clean slate.

13. Negativity

What you put out into the universe will come back to you, so change the way you think, immediately. Stop thinking of life as a glass half empty, but rather, half full. You have so much to be grateful for, if only you took a moment to appreciate it. Anything is possible in the mind of a positive thinker.

14. Judgmental Thoughts

Why do people feel the need to constantly worry about what is going on in other people’s lives? If we spent as much time worrying about our own behaviors as we do worrying about those of others, our lives would be a whole lot more meaningful. You have no idea what is going on in another person’s life, so who are you to pass judgment on the way they act?

15. Jealousy

Happiness is not having what you want; it’s wanting what you have. Stop envying others and learn to appreciate what you have. Everyone’s life is unique; you have certain things to offer that others cannot. When we act in a jealous manner, all we do is bring negative feelings into our lives. There is absolutely nothing to gain from behaving this way.

16. Insecurity

Happy people tend to have extremely high levels of self-esteem. They accept who they are and work it everyday of their lives. They radiate confidence, flaunt their pride and give off positive vibes. There is no reason to be insecure in life. If there are things you are self-conscious about, go out into the world and seek to change them. Only you have the ability to create the best version of yourself.

17. Depending On Others For Happiness

At the end of the day, the only person you can count on 100 percent of the time is yourself. Do not make the unfortunate mistake many people do and put your happiness in the hands of others. A relationship is not going to fulfill the void if you can’t even make yourself happy. You need to achieve happiness on your own before you can find someone else to share it with. This creates a detrimental dependency that will prevent you from becoming self-sufficient.

18. The Past

Stop living in the past! There is virtually nothing you can gain if you wallow in mistakes you have previously made. Take past mistakes as lessons learned, and move forward. You cannot wholeheartedly move on to a better future if you are constantly looking behind you. Things happened, and that’s that. Take them with a grain of salt and move on.

19. The Need For Control

Sometimes you just need to let life happen the way it is meant to. You cannot spend your life stressing about things that are outside of your control. Try to relax, and let things play out naturally. Embrace the unknown, as this is where you will be surprised the most. Let yourself be whisked into unforeseen endeavors, and relish in the excitement they bring.

20. Expectations

Managing your expectations is the key to happiness. If you let go of expectations, you will never be disappointed. Often, we tend to believe that the way we treat others will be the way we are treated in return. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. Do not expect a certain result from any given situations. Go into an experience with an open mind. This will allow you to fully immerse yourself, without the pressure of living up to preconceived notions.


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2014 GRAMMY WRAP UP

Song of the year: “Royals” Joel Little & Ella Yelich O’Connor (Lorde)

Best country album: “Same Trailer Different Park” Kasey Musgraves

Best pop vocal album: “Unorthodox Jukebox” Bruno Mars

JAY Z’S RESPONSE TO GRAMMY WIN

Best rap/sung collaboration: “Holy Grail” Jay Z featuring Justin Timberlake *side note:Jay Z said Blue Ivy had a gold sippy cup now… /\___/\__________* 

Best pop solo performance: “Royals” Lorde

Best rock song: “Cut me some slack” Dave Grohl, Paul McCartney, Krist Novoselic & Pat Smear

SAME LOVE  W/MADONNA

Best new artist: Macklemore and Ryan Lewis (not surprised at all!)

Best music film: “Live Kisses,” Paul McCartney

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsUsVbTj2AY

Best music video: “Suit and Tie,” Justin Timberlake Featuring Jay Z

Producer of the year, non-classical: Pharrell Williams (that hat tho…)

Best R&B album: “Girl On Fire,” Alicia Keys

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QK8mJJJvaes

Best rap performance:“Thrift Shop,” Macklemore and Ryan Lewis featuring Wanz

Best rap song: “Thrift Shop” Ben Haggerty & Ryan Lewis

Best rap album: “The Heist,” Macklemore and Ryan Lewis

Imagine dragons collabo w/ KendricK Lamar !!!!

http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/kendrick-lamar-imagine-dragons-stun-with-radioactive-grammy-collabo-20140126

Best rock performance: “Radioactive,” Imagine Dragons(I LOVE THIS SONG!)

Best metal performance: “God Is Dead?,” Black Sabbath

Best rock album: “Celebration Day,” Led Zeppelin

Best alternative music album: “Modern Vampires Of The City,” Vampire Weekend

Best country solo performance: “Wagon Wheel,” Darius Rucker

Best country duo/group performance: “From This Valley,” the Civil Wars

Best country song: “Merry Go ‘Round,” Shane McAnally, Kacey Musgraves and Josh Osborne

Best american roots song: “Love Has Come For You,” Edie Brickell and Steve Martin

Best americana album: “Old Yellow Moon,” Emmylou Harris and Rodney Crowell

Best bluegrass album: “The Streets Of Baltimore,” Del McCoury Band

Best blues album: “Get Up!,” Ben Harper with Charlie Musselwhite

Best folk album: “My Favorite Picture Of You,” Guy Clark

Best regional roots music album: “Dockside Sessions,” Terrance Simien and the Zydeco Experience

Best pop instrumental album: “Steppin’ Out,” Herb Alpert

Best traditional pop vocal album: “To Be Loved,” Michael Buble

Best new age album: “Love’s River,” Laura Sullivan

Best improvised jazz solo: “Orbits,” Wayne Shorter

Best jazz vocal album: “Liquid Spirit,” Gregory Porter

Best jazz instrumental album: “Money Jungle: Provocative In Blue,” Terri Lyne Carrington

Best large jazz ensemble album: “Night In Calisia,” Randy Brecker, Włodek Pawlik Trio & Kalisz Philharmonic

BREAK EVERY CHAIN VID

Best gospel/contemporary christian music performance: “Break Every Chain [Live],” Tasha Cobbs(Every time I hear this song I tear up)

Best gospel song: “If He Did It Before . . . Same God [Live],” Tye Tribbett

Best contemporary christian music song: “Overcomer,” David Garcia, Ben Glover & Christopher Stevens, songwriters (Mandisa)

Best gospel album: “Greater Than [Live],” Tye Tribbett

Best contemporary christian music album: “Overcomer,” Mandisa

Best latin pop album: “Vida,” Draco Rosa

Best latin rock, urban or alternative album: “Treinta Días,” La Santa Cecilia

Best regional mexican music album (including tejano): “A Mi Manera,” Mariachi Divas De Cindy Shea

Best tropical latin album: “Pacific Mambo Orchestra,” Pacific Mambo Orchestra

Best reggae album: “Ziggy Marley In Concert,” Ziggy Marley

Best world music album: “Savor Flamenco,” Gipsy Kings and “Live: Singing For Peace Around The World,” Ladysmith Black Mambazo

Best children’s album: “Throw a Penny In The Wishing Well,” Jennifer Gasoi

Best spoken word album (includes poetry, audio books & storytelling): “America Again: Re-becoming The Greatness We Never Weren’t,” Stephen Colbert

Best instrumental composition: “Pensamientos For Solo Alto Saxophone And Chamber Orchestra,” Clare Fischer, composer

Best instrumental arrangement: “On Green Dolphin Street,” Gordon Goodwin, arranger

Best instrumental arrangement accompanying vocalist(s): “Swing Low,” Gil Goldstein, arranger (Bobby McFerrin & Esperanza Spalding)

Best recording package: “Long Night Moon,” Sarah Dodds and Shauna Dodds, art directors (Reckless Kelly)

Best boxed or special limited edition package: “Wings Over America (Deluxe Edition),” Simon Earith and James Musgrave, art directors (Paul McCartney And Wings)

Best album notes: “Afro Blue Impressions (Remastered & Expanded),” Neil Tesser, album notes writer (John Coltrane)

BK: “Charlie Is My Darling — Ireland 1965” and “The Complete Sussex and Columbia Albums”

Best engineered album, non-classical: “Random Access Memories,” Peter Franco, Mick Guzauski, Florian Lagatta and Daniel Lerner, engineers; Antoine “Chab” Chabert, Bob Ludwig, mastering engineers (Daft Punk)

Best remixed recording, non-classical: “Summertime Sadness (Cedric Gervais Remix),” Cedric Gervais, remixer (Lana Del Rey)

Best surround sound album:”Live Kisses,” Al Schmitt, surround mix engineer; Tommy LiPuma, surround producer (Paul McCartney)

Best engineered album, classical: “Winter Morning Walks,” David Frost, Brian Losch and Tim Martyn, engineers; Tim Martyn, mastering engineer (Dawn Upshaw, Maria Schneider, Australian Chamber Orchestra and St. Paul Chamber Orchestra)

Producer of the year, classical: David Frost

Best orchestral performance: “Sibelius: Symphonies Nos. 1 and 4,” Osmo Vänskä, conductor

Best opera recording: “Adès: The Tempest,” Thomas Adès, conductor; Simon Keenlyside, Isabel Leonard, Audrey Luna and Alan Oke; Jay David Saks, producer

Best choral performance: “Pärt: Adam’s Lament,” Tõnu Kaljuste, conductor

Best chamber music/small ensemble performance: “Roomful Of Teeth,” Brad Wells and Roomful Of Teeth

Best classical instrumental solo: “Corigliano: Conjurer - Concerto For Percussionist and String Orchestra,” featuring Evelyn Glennie and the Albany Symphony Orchestra

Best classical vocal solo: “Winter Morning Walks,” Dawn Upshaw

Best classical compendium: “Hindemith: Violinkonzert; Symphonic Metamorphosis; Konzertmusik,” Christoph Eschenbach, conductor

Best contemporary classical composition: “Schneider, Maria: Winter Morning Walks,” Maria Schneider, composer

Best comedy album: “Calm Down Gurrl,” Kathy Griffin

Best musical theater album: “Kinky Boots”

Best compilation soundtrack for visual media: “Sound City: Real To Reel”

Best score soundtrack for visual media: “Skyfall,” Thomas Newman, composer

Best song written for visual media: “Skyfall,” Adele Adkins and Paul Epworth

Best dance recording: “Clarity,” Zedd Featuring Foxes

Watch STEVIE WONDER perform with Daft Punk & Pharell!!!

Best dance/electronica album: “Random Access Memories,” Daft Punk

SNARKY PUPPY AND LALAH “SOMETHING” VID

Best R&B performance: “Something,” Snarky Puppy With Lalah Hathaway

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pOdHIkv-64

Best traditional r&b performance: “Please Come Home,” Gary Clark Jr.

http://vimeo.com/61730356

Best R&B song: “Pusher Love Girl,” James Fauntleroy, Jerome Harmon, Timothy Mosley andJustin Timberlake

Best urban contemporary album: “Unapologetic,” Rihanna

CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL THE WINNERS!!!!



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TOP 10 BEST/WORST STATES FOR EDUCATION

LISTEN TO MY COMMENTARY FROM 24/7.COM’S OFFICIAL RANKING OF THE 10 BEST WORST STATES FOR EDUCATION! HOW DID YOUR STATE DO?


DO YOU AGREE OR DISAGREE? WHY OR WHY NOT? WHAT CAN BE DONE TO IMPROVE/CONTINUE GROWTH?

source:  http://247wallst.com/special-report/2014/01/14/states-with-the-best-and-worst-schools-2/


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FALLEN PASTOR CONVICTED OF SPREADING HIV

Craig Lamar Davis

CLICK FOR MY COVERAGE OF THIS DISGRACED “MAN OF GOD” (AND I DO USE THAT TERM LOOSELY) AS HE’S FOUND GUILTY OF KNOWINGLY SPREADING  HIV!!!!

 

 

Ronita McAfee


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All I Really Want is to be Happy!

Hello everyone! I hope you are feeling happy!

In my search for happiness I found this very interesting article addressing whether happiness is overrated. Humph really? All this time I been looking for happiness and come to find out that these people are sayin it’s over rated. Well no matter what they say I still want my “HAPPY“! However since it was quite interesting to me I thought it was worth sharing with you all! I also wanted to share a song with you by my girl India Arie of her first aalbum that helps give insight to living a happy life. That girl is deep! I hope you enjoy!

Is Happiness Overrated?

Study Finds Physical Benefits to Some (Not All) Good Feelings

The relentless pursuit of happiness may be doing us more harm than good.
Some researchers say happiness as people usually think of it—the experience of pleasure or positive feelings—is far less important to physical health than the type of well-being that comes from engaging in meaningful activity. Researchers refer to this latter state as “eudaimonic well-being.”Happiness research, a field known as “positive psychology,” is exploding. Some of the newest evidence suggests that people who focus on living with a sense of purpose as they age are more likely to remain cognitively intact, have better mental health and even live longer than people who focus on achieving feelings of happiness.

In fact, in some cases, too much focus on feeling happy can actually lead to feeling less happy, researchers say.

The pleasure that comes with, say, a good meal, an entertaining movie or an important win for one’s sports team—a feeling called “hedonic well-being”—tends to be short-term and fleeting. Raising children, volunteering or going to medical school may be less pleasurable day to day. But these pursuits give a sense of fulfillment, of being the best one can be, particularly in the long run.

“Sometimes things that really matter most are not conducive to short-term happiness,” says Carol Ryff, a professor and director of the Institute on Aging at the University of Wisconsin, Madison.

“Eudaimonia” is a Greek word associated with Aristotle and often mistranslated as “happiness”—which has contributed to misunderstandings about what happiness is. Some experts say Aristotle meant “well-being” when he wrote that humans can attain eudaimonia by fulfilling their potential. Today, the goal of understanding happiness and well-being, beyond philosophical interest, is part of a broad inquiry into aging and why some people avoid early death and disease. Psychologists investigating eudaimonic versus hedonic types of happiness over the past five to 10 years have looked at each type’s unique effects on physical and psychological health.

For instance, symptoms of depression, paranoia and psychopathology have increased among generations of American college students from 1938 to 2007, according to a statistical review published in 2010 in Clinical Psychology Review. Researchers at San Diego State University who conducted the analysis pointed to increasing cultural emphasis in the U.S. on materialism and status, which emphasize hedonic happiness, and decreasing attention to community and meaning in life, as possible explanations.

Since 1995, Dr. Ryff and her Wisconsin team have been studying some 7,000 individuals and examining factors that influence health and well-being from middle age through old age in a study called MIDUS, or the Mid-Life in the U.S. National Study of Americans, funded by the National Institute on Aging. Eudaimonic well-being “reduces the bite” of risk factors normally associated with disease like low education level, using biological measures, according to their recently published findings on a subset of study participants.

Participants with low education level and greater eudaimonic well-being had lower levels of interleukin-6, an inflammatory marker of disease associated with cardiovascular disease, osteoporosis and Alzheimer’s disease, than those with lower eudaimonic well-being, even after taking hedonic well-being into account. The work was published in the journal Health Psychology.

David Bennett, director of the Alzheimer’s Disease Center at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago, and his colleagues showed that eudaimonic well-being conferred benefits related to Alzheimer’s. Over a seven-year period, those reporting a lesser sense of purpose in life were more than twice as likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease compared with those reporting greater purpose in life, according to an analysis published in the journal Archives of General Psychiatry. The study involved 950 individuals with a mean age of about 80 at the start of the study.

In a separate analysis of the same group of subjects, researchers have found those with greater purpose in life were less likely to be impaired in carrying out living and mobility functions, like housekeeping, managing money and walking up or down stairs. And over a five-year period they were significantly less likely to die—by some 57%— than those with low purpose in life.

The link persisted even after researchers took into account variables that could be related to well-being and happiness, such as depressive symptoms, neuroticism, medical conditions and income.

“I think people would like to be happy,” says Dr. Bennett. “But, you know, life has challenges. A lot of it is how you confront those challenges.”

There is some evidence that people high in eudaimonic well-being process emotional information differently than those who are low in it. Brain-imaging studies indicate people with high eudaimonic well-being tend to use the pre-frontal cortex more than people with lower eudaimonic well-being, says Cariem van Reekum, researcher at the Centre for Integrative Neuroscience and Neurodynamics at the University of Reading in the U.K. The pre-frontal cortex is important to higher-order thinking, including goal-setting, language and memory.

It could be that people with high eudaimonic well-being are good at reappraising situations and using the brain more actively to see the positives, Dr. van Reekum says. They may think, “This event is difficult but I can do it,” she says. Rather than running away from a difficult situation, they see it as challenging.

The two types of well-being aren’t necessarily at odds, and there is overlap. Striving to live a meaningful life or to do good work should bring about feelings of happiness, of course. But people who primarily seek extrinsic rewards, such as money or status, often aren’t as happy, says Richard Ryan, professor of psychology, psychiatry and education at the University of Rochester.

Simply engaging in activities that are likely to promote eudaimonic well-being, such as helping others, doesn’t seem to yield a psychological benefit if people feel pressured to do them, according to a study Dr. Ryan and a colleague published last year in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. “When people say, ‘In the long-run, this will get me some reward,’ that person doesn’t get as much benefit,” he says.

There’s nothing wrong with trying to feel happy, psychologists say. Happy people tend to be more sociable and energetic, which may lead them to engage in meaningful activities. And for someone who is chronically angry or depressed, the goal should be to help this person feel happier, says Ed Diener, a retired professor at the University of Illinois who advises pollster Gallup, Inc., on well-being and positive psychology.

Surveys have shown the typical person usually feels more positive than neutral, yet it isn’t clear he or she needs to be any happier, Dr. Diener says. But there is such a thing as too much focus on happiness. Ruminating too much about oneself can become a vicious cycle. Fixating on being happy “in itself can become a psychological burden,” Dr. Ryff says.

Being happy doesn’t mean feeling elated all the time. Deep stress is bad, but the “I don’t have enough time” stress that many people feel while balancing work, family and other demands may not be so bad, Dr. Diener says. To improve feelings of happiness and eudaimonia, focus on relationships and work that you love, Dr. Diener says, adding, “Quit sitting around worrying about yourself and get focused on your goals.”

As always leave me a note to let me know if this blog was useful to you and forget your troubles come on get happy!

article written by: Shirley S. Wang


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