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Hello my Singles! I think you all know where I am going with this blog. Who are you most likely to introduce to the guy/girl you are currently dating? Everyone is not going to be privileged enough to meet who are dating. For me you have to get my friends. My friends are wild and zany. On top of that they know how to read people very well. After you meet them you will move on to meeting my parents; my mother in particular . She has no problem sharing what she thinks with me.  Once you get pass those people you are home free.

I asked my Facebook friends the same question. Here are their answers

Shannon Nicole:  My best friend(s) and my mother… My best friends because they know my like a book.. My mother because she reads ppl very well, too well. Lol

Bella Tiffany:  My best friend… She know me. I’ve never introduced a man to my parents. Haven’t met one that special.

Author Shakeim Edmonds: My cousin “Mo”, because he analyze people just as much as I do.

My singles I am going to be super honest with you. Some of my family I wish not to introduce my “boyfriend” to. Oh I know you are thinking “Why not”. Here is why, they are so judgmental and I don’t have time nor energy for them. They always seem to see the bad in every situation and want to attack characters. How can you attack someones character when you don’t even know the person. Sometimes your mate is not the same with everyone else as he/she may be with you. You may get to see the real side of them while others only see how arrogant he/she may be. You get to see their heart and how genuine they can be. It is about the process of getting to know someone that they miss out on.  You know the reason why you fell in love with that person, no one else has to know. I know I am going to piss off some of my family members. Hey but you know why you only hear about the person I may be dating and never lay eyes on him.

What others think really shouldn’t matter if you are happy!

Happy Dating!!!!!

XOXOXOXOX

E. Ahdai

Hey my singles!!!! I am coming off of a long week. Clearly I have been all over the place dealing with this crazy weather in the south . That is neither here or there. Today’s blog has to deal with the whole pretty face and ugly attitude. I was chatting with my friend Jay whom you all have heard me talk about before. HE and I were discussing women’s attitudes. He says to me “Now you know you are not included in  this because you don’t get upset about nothing and when you do you say it with a smile. You have to be the coolest chick I know.”  Well aww shucks… I am kind of cool. However not every woman is me and I am not them. Lately he has been coming across women with nasty ass attitudes. It is a no go for him. Could it be that that they are holding on to some old feelings from the last man? Or could it be that he hurt her so bad that she is now bitter? Or does she feel like the world owes her something.

LADIES! No man wants to deal with a nasty ass attitude all the time. I am going to be real honest as woman I don’t want to hear it either. Every day is not a jacked up day. No one pissed in your corn flakes. To wake up in the morning in a blessing why not enjoy it. Please reevaluate yourself. That attitude you are wearing is not cute and your pretty face is only going to get you so far. I have had females like this in my life. I am a real mild mannered person. I love to have a good time. I am a joker. Once you kill my vibe I am done for. I remember going out to club one night, her mouth almost got us in a fight; all because a chick was looking at her. Looking in someone’s direction doesn’t classify you acting like a plum monkey fool. The girl wasn’t  even looking at this nutcase. Then outside the club her boyfriend is trying to calm her and she bucks at him. Lets just say this after that is stopped rocking with her. NO one wants to deal with that, nor do that have time.

As I always I ask my Facebook followers the same question that I ask myself. “What causes some women to have nasty attitudes?”

Abdul: They are ignorant as hell thus making many aspects of life deplorable.

Bella Tiffany: Some women were raised that way. To always be in the defense- “I gotta hurt you before you hurt me.” 
Trust is huge! And holding on to the past hurts in their life. I do believe some people are just plain nasty but their are underlying issues that cause all that pain. 
*readers digest version of my lengthy thoughts

Ace:Sometimes its pasts hurts that haven’t been addressed or haven’t healed….

Kimberly: I would say that negative experiences make some bitter and angry. They put a defensive wall up and it’s hard to crack.

Seems as if people believe that because these women have been hurt they can act as if the worlds owes them something. I was once told that the world owes me nothing, but you off into the universe what you want to receive back. Yes I have be hurt before. You wouldn’t believe the stories I could tell you. That hurt created  the strong person that I am today. After the hurt I had to get back to myself.  These women are not just young; there are some old ones to. LET GO OF THE HURT. It takes more energy to be upset about nothing. Being happy takes less energy. The thing about happiness it is created with in you and no one can take it from you .

Have a great rest of your week!!!!!

XOXOXOX

E. Ahdai

��HI MY SINGLES!!!!!!! I hope that you all had a wonderful Monday. I didn’t have the day off like some but I had a good day. Tonight’s blog comes from a conversation I was having with a co-worker today.  The conversation went something like this.

Her: E, I am not sure how I am feeling right now?”

Me: Ok, why do you say that?

Her: I had a good time with “Mr. Man” this weekend, but he did a few things I am not use to?

Me: What do mean? What did he do? ( I am thinking something sexual went really wrong or really right) #dontjudgeme

Her: I am not use to men opening doors and taking my bags for me. I guess I need to stop being so self efficient.

Me: (side eye)What the hell are you use to? and that has nothing to do with being self efficient.

Her: Not that…It has been a long time since I have had someone do things like that.

Me: Clearly you have been dealing with the wrong type of men.

Again clearly she has been dealing with the wrong type of men if she is not use to someone opening the door for her. I am sorry for me that is required. I need a mans man but he also has to have those gentleman qualities.  Chivalry is defined as  the qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women.  Does he open the door for me?(Yes) Does he grab my bags when I come out the door of the airport and carries them to the car? (Yes) If someone speaks to me in manner that I am not liking, does he stick up for me in the proper way? (Yes violence is never the answer but he protects my best interest). I can respect a man who treats me like a lady and not a child.

I feel like some women have traded the gentlemen in for this so called bad boy. You know the one who is so disrespectful. No one can raise a man if he is already grown. He just wasn’t  raised right.  That is like trying to teach an old dog new tricks. (WAY TOO MUCH WORK). Who wants to deal with rudeness  on a constant basis.

What I find funny is this. I posted a question on my Facebook page “ Ladies are some of us so  conditioned to the wrong man who does not have any gentleman qualities that we think that chivalry is dead?” Do you know not one woman answered it… HMMMMMMMMMM it makes me wonder what are women dealing with these days. Wait one minute, one of favorites Miss Perri had this to say:

“No. I think that some women are so thirsty, and on a sac chase, that they don’t require a man to show he has gentleman qualities. When you have little to no expectations, and too eager to please, but not to be pleased, you get what you get. ”

To some they may say that my standards are set high. UMMMM NO my standards are set at being treated like a woman, a lady, and a person. I think everyone deserves to be treated right…

Well that was my 2cent for the day… Join me on Wednesday… I have something for you…

Happy Dating

XOXOXOXOX

E. Ahdai

I know I know.. We are clearly already days on top of days into the new year but still HAPPY NEW YEAR to my SINGLES. I am still single, are you?  When it came down to this years resultions I kept seeing people say “I am going to find love”.  ((PAUSE)) Why are you looking for love?  ((PLAY)) I think people fail to realize you shouldn’t go out looking for love. Sometimes love just comes. I would have to say I would make myself a little bit more accessible and more open to options.  I am guilty of throwing myself into work and not taking anytime for myself. Heck even some of my friendships suffered because of that. When I say open too options I mean that I am not going to be so quick to pass up the possibility, but he still has to meet my standards.   My suggestion to my others singles is to also to be open. If you can’t see yourself opening up then you may want to still take some time out and get back to you.

Another thing I noticed “New Year a New ME”. OK so listen if it is going to be a new year and a new you while in blue blazes are you still talking that dumb mess from last year. “Oh men aren’t worth nothing or I am sick of hoes”  Excuse hey you… yes you who said this tomfoolery. You do know that you are just a few weeks into the new year and you are still talking simple. You have to be the change that you need. If you still have the same good for nothing person in your life how can you get to the new you. You are too busy worrying about that loser. Fellas if she is hoe then let her be the hoe she is, you can remove yourself.  Stop seeking their attention. Again be the change that you need in your life.

So lets get on this ride together. This should be fun… ADVENTURE TIME!!!!

WELCOME TO THE NEW YEAR!!!! Happy Dating XOXOXOXOXO

E. Ahdai

I was sitting and chatting with my best friend who is a male. He says “E why are you wanting to go back… WE are playas we don’t look back” But I am not a playa. I still love this guy and I still feel like we can make it work. Yes this the same Ex from before. I finally called and we finally talked. We both realize that we were wrong and we have forgiven. I truly missed having our friendship. He understands me more than other people do. Like I said before I missed my friend in him, I missed the laughter we use to share.

How did we get back here?  Well we have never missed each others birthday and we stopped talking shortly after mine. Well his was coming up and I was nervous about saying “Happy Birthday”. How would I tell him…had he deleted my number, will he know it is me… Maybe I should just text and see what happens. These are all things that came into mind.  I sat down with my pen and pad and wrote the words that were on my heart, which turned into something so powerful.  Here is a little piece of it

“Fighting my feelings is something that I am good at.
Not acknowledging them a lot easier than facing them head on.
I admit I am terrified of falling in love and staying in love.
Then there is the fear of my love not being acknowledged.
I guess that makes me flawed
I’m far from perfect and I love how God works on me daily.
He keeps telling me not to fear the one who is meant to love me.
Maybe it came a little late. Maybe we hurt each other too much already
It’s just so finale with us… The friendship is missed…
The laughter is missed
The strength is missed
I will not pretend and say I don’t think of you often, you even show up in my dreams.”  So you see my heart still loved him then, and even now. I opted to send through facebook. Reason being I would know when he saw it. I didn’t expect the response that I got but it opened the perfect door.

There are not too many people in the world that really understand me. They don’t really know what makes me tick.  He knows my heart is in a good place and supporting him make my heart beat louder than normal. I don’t know where this is going but I hope it goes far. To be honest even if just ends a friendship I will be ok.