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Recently, Robin Thicke was in the news again. This time not for stealing music but for stealing bootie! Robin got his photo taken with a fan, showing him grabbing that bootay of the fan in the reflection of the mirror. Oops! When asked about the scandalous photo, Robin commented “my wife and I are perfectly in love and very happily married.” Now either that was a lie or it was the truth! Is it okay to flirt or even fondle someone else if you are married or in a committed relationship?
Some people may have that “I was born a flirt and I can not help it disease.” Perhaps Robin has that disease! I saw several episodes of the singing competition show, “Duets” in which Robin was judge/mentor and he flirted with most of the women contestants on national television. He flirted so much I wondered was this just a part of his personality and his wife is cool with that or is he a walking sex fiend! When I was dating, a couple of the guys I dated, I caught them flirting with other women a few times in the club when they did not know I was going to be there and I showed up with my girls! Now this may have seemed childish at the time but instead of me approaching my man and causing a scene, I gave him a taste of his own medicine and let other men flirt with me at the club and I flirted back! Of course then, my man had a problem with that and confronted me but wait it was okay for him to flirt with other women in the club but now it was not okay for me to do it. I don’t think so! Needles to say those times in the club that my man was flirting with other women and I decided to do my own flirting in retaliation, always resulted in my man going to my house after the club or me to his! It never failed! Somehow that flirting with other people made us both territorial! Looking back I realize that flirting added some spice and fueled foreplay for later after the club. I have to admit the cat and mouse games turned us onto each other even more!
So you could say some flirting outside of your relationship could add some spice to your relationship! Unfortunately, looking back at those relationships I had with those flirting men, they eventually cheated on me! Now I am not saying that if you flirt, you will cheat, but what I am saying is flirting may open the door to the possibility. If you know your partner is a flirt and you choose to accept that behavior in your relationship than just be aware that there may be a chance at some point your partner may cross the line and take the flirting a step further with someone else. Maintaining a relationship or marriage is not easy. To be honest it may feel like you have a second job! It can be stressful and sometimes boring but to avoid outside flirting and cheating you have to learn to keep the spice in your relationship with each other, whether it be with role playing, surprise romantic getaways, gifts, spontaneous sex, toys, etc. Now that I am married, I learned there is no better flirting, than the flirting you do with your partner inside your relationship, not outside the relationship!