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We all know that life is not easy and that on a daily basis there are a long list of things that we allow to steal our happiness.
As I get older I’m finding that I have neither the energy nor the time to be unhappy. Due to the road I’ve traveled, I understand (probably better than a lot of people) that my tomorrow is not promised so I want to live each day being as happy as I can possibly be. I know that it’s easier said than done because life just happens and sometimes when it happens, we don’t feel like we have any other choice but to be unhappy, but I am here to tell you that no matter what life throws at you, you are able to be happy!
Here are 4 strategies to be and maintain your happiness:
1) Make a choice!
Just make the choice to be happy. Tell yourself that you don’t desire to walk around wearing a frown and instead, you want to wear a smile as wide as the ocean and as bright as the sun. Make a commitment to yourself that you want happiness and that you’re willing to do anything to get it.
Now if you’re anything like me, forgiveness is something that will take some doing. You talk about holding a grudge? Honey I am the Queen of staying pissed off but what I am learning is that holding on to negative situations and people hinders my happiness. It stops me from being able to flourish and to keep a smile on my face, which does nothing but make me bitter and unhappy. Aint nobody got time fa that! Just let it go and allow karma to do what she does best.
3) “Me” Time!
Life is crazy and sometimes we get so caught up in the everyday crap that we forget all about ourselves. Start taking some time either once every week, once a month, or whenever, for you. Go and do things that relax you and allow you to “switch off” from the mental, physical, and emotional strain that life tends to hand to us. Turn your phone and laptop off. Get a sitter for the children. Empty your home of all other occupants (if you choose to relax at home.) Do whatever you need to do to have some alone time.
4) Negative Thinking!
Retrain your negative thinking about yourself and about others. This will involve dedication because you will have to start being mindful of the thoughts you allow into your head and then replace those negative thoughts with positive ones. Just remember that our thinking has a lot to do with our ability to be happy and to be at peace.
Once you start utilizing these strategies you’ll soon see that each will become easier. Over time, you’ll have your happy back and hopefully your happy will inspire another to find theirs!
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Yesterday Beyonce released a song on her Tumblr account called Bow Down. I guess it’s supposed to be what’s to come for her Mrs Carter tour. Perfectly orchestrated in her form it has already been causing a stir. I attempted to listen to it but shit it down after a few seconds. Then I listened to the whole song after GMA mentioned it and collectively were not impressed with the excessive use of the word bitch especially since her husband denounced using the word after the birth of their daughter. After listening to the words I cracked up laughing. Why? Because I’m surprised she didn’t come out with that years ago.
Don’t get it twisted, I still don’t like the song but not for the reason everyone else dislike it. I didn’t like the mish mosh of beats, one second it’s opera then the next chopped and screwed. Her reasoning behind it was clear as day though.
Ever since announcing her pregnancy Beyonce has been under extra scrutiny from she was never pregnant, the daughter was not real, the child is the Antichrist I mean the list goes on. All of ot finally got to the usually coiffed entertainer. She didn’t have to address anything but she did and Bow Down was the result. She was bound to crack at some point.
Singer Keyshia ‘irrelevant’ Cole (remember her?) took to Twitter to announcer her dislike. She wonder how come Beyonce could one moment be about female power then the next wanting us to bow down? Well Keyshia let me answer that for you, it’s to address heifas like you. A person can be about girl power but if people talk slick she doesn’t have to take it. And anyway Beyonce was only referring to the hatas not ALL females. Similar to when a rap artist says hoe, they are addressing the females who act like hoes. Females stop drinking that Redbull then climbing behind a keyboard posting ignorant shit.
Bey, that shouldn’t be on your album but I have officially realized you are a human and not a robot. How do you feel about what she said in Bow Down?
Peace and luv!
I’m about to try and keep this short and sweet because I know you’ve been spoon fed enough on this subject. Even though Chris Brown is a great artist I still, along with a lot of people it seems, think the name ‘woman beater’ will forever be engraved on his resume. I believe someone needs to snatch him up and 1) give him a good ass whoopin then 2) get him into some legit anger management classes and make sure he attends them! It confuses me how his ex girl Rhianna and his current girl are suddenly bumping heads over this young-minded boy.
I don’t understand females. When these situations arise they automatically go after the ‘other woman’ when in actuality they should be going to the man first because last time I checked it takes two to tango. I mean they both have been going H.A.M. over this dude which makes me ask are there not enough men out there for these beautiful brown sistas to be with instead of this loose cannon who may or may not snap on them and split their dome wide open? I don’t care what people say there is more to come from this brotha and it will not be pretty unless he can get it together. I believe in change but his latest outbursts and violent actions only proves to me and the rest of the world that he has not grown up spiritually. For the two girls along with many others out there that have experienced abuse, cheating, or disrespectful behavior from a man I know it’s hard when you’re involved with someone like this to think there is someone out there who can actually treat you like the Queen that you are, trust me I’ve been there and is still going through the process but do what you can to get away from the abusive environment. God made you Queens and Queens do not get disrespected on any kind of level!
Peace and luv!
- Should Chris Brown Bow Down?(urbanimagemagazine.com)
- Eye Saw That: While Chris Battles to Stay Out of Jail Rhi and Karruche Battle Like Kids #where Is the Support System?? (urbanimagemagazine.com)
- Eye Heard……*taps Speakers*…rhianna Are U There??!! (urbanimagemagazine.com)
Tagged as abuse, anger management, artist, Beef, brown girls, cheating, chris brown, couple, domes, environment, ex, fans, females, fight, men, outbursts, Relationships, Rhianna, young-minded
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Last Monday’s episode of Basketball Wives had me doing a double take; there was a scene that threw me for a serious loop. Ocho-Cinco was conversating with his fiance the gorgeous Evelyn. With the most serious expression on his face Ocho-Cinco said that they should be able to have an open marriage because he is not good with commitments and why change him.
I literally had to rewind the tv because I needed to make sure I heard right. Once I did that then my mouth dropped. Is this what marriage has resorted to? I know for a fact God up there is shaking His head because this is not what He intended at all. To me women who accept this kind of arrangement have self esteem issues. I don’t care how you flip it or how many sweet words you use I’m still going to look at you cross eyed. Why get married? Awhile back one celebrity, I forgot who it was, say, ‘why not have an open marriage. If I don’t have the energy to have sex when he wants it let another female do it for me.’ That statement right there is 9 levels of foolishness! It is almost as if these women (especially older women) have put up the white flag and accepted that the only way they are getting married is if they allow the man to cheat openly and then pretend like it’s ok. All you are doing is devaluing yourself among other things.
No one will respect you especially your kids!
Imagine everyone knows about your lil’ open marriage agreemant, you are both at a club; some random chick slithers her way to your partner and goes hard with flirting. In all reality you can’t say shit, you might try but the heifa will throw that ‘open marriage’ and ‘you asked for it’ status right in your face. Your kids may see their father/step-father going out with other women and they may think this behavior is acceptable or if they know that marriage is supposed to be a monogamy thing they may come to you and ask how in the hell are you gone let your husband cheat and flaunt his mistress around like it’s nothing? What will be your answer then?
What if the outside lover is crazy?
A lot of people be drinking that coo-coo juice. Everybody (well not everybody but most) has a personal agenda. Whose to say the outside lover will play their part and bow down after having sex with your partner? Celebrities and money makers will have this problem the most. That side piece could become psychotic and start some ignorant shit because they want to be in your spot. If you start seeing a strange person lurking in the bushes, your tires getting slashed, or three o’clock in the morning phone calls with nothing but breathing on the other end you might want to prepare yourself for a fight.
Does your partner practice safe sex? Will that partner be strapped every time? Are you 100% sure? You won’t be there every single time so how could you be so sure? Having an open marriage opens the door (and umm…legs) for extra crumbsnatchers in your house. One day you could leave the house with one child and by the end of the day there are three of them eating up your ish. AIDS and other STDs are rampent; again whose to say your partner is using protection every time? One day you will go to the bathroom then as you look down you see your picacho still attached to those pretty panties – damn! Now you’re burning!
Bye! Bye! Bye!
A fool will do as much as you let them. Opening that door for open marriage means you will have to work harder to keep your partner’s attention. Break out those bags of tricks to make sure they don’t get attached and cut out on you. Divorce rate is increasing why would you set yourself up for a divorce? Your partner can fall in love with the other person leaving you sitting at the dining room table with a big bottle of wine boo-hooing and poorly attempting to play victim cause they left you. Nobody is going to buy that pity party cry. If anything they are going to look at you and say ‘It’s your fault anyway, what did you expect?’
Look ladies, especially my age group and higher, stop lying to yourselves, this is not normal behavior. You can walk around thinking it’s no big deal, that your husband will cheat anyway so it’s better this way but after awhile that will eat at you and you’ll become this paranoid person always questioning everybody he talks to. Did she fuck my husband? Was she with him on his ‘business trip’? I gave him permission but I didn’t REALLY think he would step out! Stop devaluing yourself. Sex is not everything but it’s a part of the marriage, a sacred part no less. To Ms. Evelyn, you’re beautiful, independent, intelligent mami basically a great catch, why get married to someone who doesn’t think you’re worth enough to stay faithful? Marriage is hard already without adding this foolery. Anyone close to this mami shake the shit out of her so she can go back to having common sense!
Peace and luv!
- Open Marriage=happy Marriage ??? (comm663.wordpress.com)
- Would You Allow Your Man To Sleep With Other Women If He Promised To Tell You? (hellobeautiful.com)
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There are two things I notice about Lil Wayne 1) he is successfully fucking every girl in the world and 2) he gotta have that magic stick! I mean this dude change women like I change my stilettos. He doesn’t hide it at all nor do the main girl of the moment mind. I’m trying to figure out what he is doing to have all of these respectable females turn into thirsties. Does he really have that magic stick?
Don’t get it twisted I don’t personally wanna find out if he does; I’m the wrong shade anyway but last night’s foolery has peaked my interest. So everyone knows Lil Wayne’s main chick is Dhea. He’s been pictured with her at basketball games on numerous occasions, he even is rumored to be engaged to her but if you were at Club Liv last night you would think otherwise.
Birdman hosted a party and the whole crew was there including of course Lil Wayne however his sidekick was m.i.a. Instead one of Lil Wayne’s back up dancers was the toy of the moment and she made it VERY known who she was partying with all on Twitter (I swear some people need their phones taken away and be banned from Twitter). While all hugged up with him Veronica (the back up dancer) hit up Twitter with a few subliminal messages including this one:
‘U r clearly being thirsty because u r not getting any because ur game is whack #checkyourself’
That message could really go anyway. Yeah she could be sending that to Dhea or to an ex of hers. But to push it even farther Veronica later tweets,
‘Please say the baby!’
along with a pic of an used Magnum wrapper.
Really ma?! Do you really think that was cute? I know alcohol might have played a part in those tweets (Jamie Foxx) but what are you benefiting from doing all of that shit talking? Thru Twitter no less. Ok he hit it after the club but who will he be back to sitting with on the sidelines at the basketball games? It’s a great chance it won’t be you baby girl. Not saying that Dhea has it good either, if that’s her fa real, fa real fiancee why the hell was he doing an Usher making luv in da club with his back up dancer? I’ve learned that a man will do as much as a woman allows him to. Clearly these women are letting him do whatever he want whenever he want! But why tho? Cause he has millions to blow? His swag is bananas yes but not enough to make me drop my thongs. Women complain on the regular that men can’t be faithful but if an athlete or hip hop artist step in the mix their morals fly out the door and those colored contacts are replaced with dollar signs. I honestly don’t blame him for disrespecting these woman since they obviously don’t respect themselves enough to be anything other than a side hoe.
Peace and luv!
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