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Hello my Singles! I think you all know where I am going with this blog. Who are you most likely to introduce to the guy/girl you are currently dating? Everyone is not going to be privileged enough to meet who are dating. For me you have to get my friends. My friends are wild and zany. On top of that they know how to read people very well. After you meet them you will move on to meeting my parents; my mother in particular . She has no problem sharing what she thinks with me. Once you get pass those people you are home free.
I asked my Facebook friends the same question. Here are their answers
Shannon Nicole: My best friend(s) and my mother… My best friends because they know my like a book.. My mother because she reads ppl very well, too well. Lol
Bella Tiffany: My best friend… She know me. I’ve never introduced a man to my parents. Haven’t met one that special.
Author Shakeim Edmonds: My cousin “Mo”, because he analyze people just as much as I do.
My singles I am going to be super honest with you. Some of my family I wish not to introduce my “boyfriend” to. Oh I know you are thinking “Why not”. Here is why, they are so judgmental and I don’t have time nor energy for them. They always seem to see the bad in every situation and want to attack characters. How can you attack someones character when you don’t even know the person. Sometimes your mate is not the same with everyone else as he/she may be with you. You may get to see the real side of them while others only see how arrogant he/she may be. You get to see their heart and how genuine they can be. It is about the process of getting to know someone that they miss out on. You know the reason why you fell in love with that person, no one else has to know. I know I am going to piss off some of my family members. Hey but you know why you only hear about the person I may be dating and never lay eyes on him.
What others think really shouldn’t matter if you are happy!
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Raising children without a co-parent is one of the most difficult jobs in our communities. Single parenting is a reality and once we are able to face that fact, we will be able to move forward as a society. There is a great understanding of how important and nurturing it can be to involve extended family members to help with the physical care and emotional molding of our children’s young minds and spirit. Whether we choose to be a single parent or are forced into the role, there are other entities we can tap into that will assist us with raising community and health conscious, respectful, fully educated and well-rounded children. I believe and have experienced that it does takes a “village” to raise a child. However, one part of that saying, I would have to add is, it definitely makes a difference if the “village” is healed and healthy.
Growing up in Chicago’s Englewood community, I watched many unhealthy values and actions. It was a close community but it was riddled with poverty, low-performing school districts and in many cases, lack of hope. However, what I depended on to help me through were my (married) parents who were advocates of education, community service and making sure we were heavily involved in positive, extra-curricular activities. Their logic was that if we (my brothers and I) had positive involvements in the community along with an appropriate upbringing, then we were destined for greatness.
Finally, to assist all single parents out there, I thought this month would be perfect for introducing to some and reiterating to others how your community resources are there (even though you may have to research them) to assist in rearing our children. The following are a few organizations that you might be interesting in signing your children up for to add to their already current destiny of greatness:
1). YMCA – www.ymca.net –A multi-facility where your child(ren) or entire family can become members and take recreational classes, workshops, etc. You will be able to search for the nearest YMCA in your city and state. There is a fee, however they have sliding scale for those who may be receiving state assistance. Many offer after-school and summer programs.
2). Boys and Girls Club of America – www.bcga.org –A multi-facility where your children can become members up to the age of 18 years old. It is a place where they offer learning and play opportunities. Many offer after-school and summer programs. You will be able to search for the nearest YMCA in your city and state.
3). Girl Scouts – www.girlscouts.org and Boy Scouts of America – www.scouts.org – Scouting a tradition in many families and communities. Some of what they offer is many life skills, self-worth values and promotion of honor, integrity and giving back. They meet once a month excluding the summer. No fee to register but there is usually a monthly dues and fundraisers a few times a year.
These suggestions are organizations more on a national level. However, if you reach out to the neighborhood schools, churches and Park Districts, there are more programs that can enhance your child’s learning and development. Single parenting is not an easy job but there are positive people right in our own communities that are excited about helping us along our journey!
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What are the odds that you are reuniting with your ex in which it has been yearrssss since yall last held each other, kissed each other and made love to each other? Well, it can happen! A lot of people are stuck on the saying “Ex means the past so move on,” but in reality an ex can mean a new beginning and another shot at the relationship if it’s meant to be!
For example, I’m getting back with my ex which I’ve have known since 2005 and while dating him for four years straight during my college years, I feel a greater connection now than before. Even though the relationship fell off and he dated other (strange) women, his heart found it’s way back to me! On the other hand, I was looking for trouble and I wanted a quick fix to ease the lonliness I was feeling within myself.
An Ex-factor does has it’s consequences, so therefore if you re-considering getting back with your “boo-thang” that you still have feelings for, I say go for it! Ain’t nothing wrong with reuniting the old flames. When things didn’t go right the first time, a second chance won’t hurt. So this is the tricky part lady and gents. Think about this closely and read this very closely. If and IF your ex has cheated on you and that was the main cause of the break-up, maybe you should give it some thought some before saying yes too soon. I do believe that people can change in relationships and I won’t give up on that person, but a good idea for that matter is couseling to see where yall heads are at before sealing the deal.
Don’t settle for less either! Another saying that says “Wait on God for your mate” is really true, but what if you already have that one person in mind without God’s consent? Would it then be considered a sin? Loving your ex still is perfectly normall and sometimes when we try to forge the painful things they have done to us, we still have a piece of them in our hearts. It hurts when we are hurt emotionally, physically and yes mentally, but with the proper healing, we can begin to move on.
But when time shows itself again and we run into our ex, it can sometimes be for the best or sometimes it may be for the worst. Why not experiment on a shot of love again and spark up those old love flames? Just be careful the second time around. Maybe it will work and maybe it won’t work!
But if you gonna reunite with the ex-booskie, make the most out of it!
Peace and Blessings!
Lil Woman on a Mission
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My idea of happiness may be totally different than any one of your is. However, no matter what anyone’s concept of happiness is I’m pretty sure that taking time for them selves to relax is part of their happy state of mind. Though you may not have time or money to go out and have a luxurious spa weekend there are somethings that you can indulge in at home that will definitely increase your relaxed state. This weekend would be the perfect time to try to take some me time and just relax. I found these ideas online:
Get refreshed without ever leaving your home
1. Wing It Once In a While
If you’re ruled by your to-do list, it’s time to learn the art of anything goes. Contradictory as it sounds, you have to schedule spontaneity, at least at first, says life coach Cheryl Richardson, author of The Art of Extreme Self-Care. How? Plan a plan-free day: Put it on your calendar (in pen!) and when the time comes, let your freewheeling, creative, impulsive side call all the shots. Whatever you feel like doing that day, do it—no chores or responsible girl tasks allowed. Wake up and then go right back to bed. Watch a Real Housewives marathon. Spend an embarrassing amount of time on Facebook. Go solo to see that new rom-com your husband scoffs at.
2. Give Yourself a Rubdown
Two tennis balls in a tube sock is all you need for a DIY deep-tissue massage. Kristy Yazzi, a massage therapist at Canyon Ranch wellness center in Tucson, Arizona, tells you how: Lie down on the floor or in bed and place it under your lower back with the balls positioned on each side of your spine. Using a slow, continuous movement, roll your body back and forth (toward your head and then toward your feet), letting the tennis balls knead your muscles.
3. Act Like the Kid You Were
Need to destress? Regress. For a guaranteed mood lift, do whatever it was that gave you joy before teen angst changed your world view. “A girl is most connected to her soul, to the things she really loves to do, between the ages of 10 and 13,” says Richardson. Think of a few things you couldn’t live without when you were that age. “I loved digging in the dirt,” says Richardson. “Today I love flowers and gardening.” If you can’t recall any particular activities, take a cue from your children. Who cares if it’s age-inappropriate? That’s the point!
4. Pump Up Your iPod
Since music affects your mood (and heart rate and brain waves and dance moves), create a playlist of songs that demand you have a good time, like Sheryl Crow’s “All I Wanna Do,” Cyndi Lauper’s “Girls Just Want to Have Fun” and pretty much anything by The Go-Go’s.
5. Meditate On the Fly
Don’t have a quiet spot to get Zen? You don’t need it. Try mindful meditation, the simple practice of moment-to-moment awareness to quiet the mind and calm the body. Say you’re cutting up veggies for dinner. With each chop, really notice the crunch and vibrant color of the carrots and peppers. Heading out for a walk? Let the rhythm of your footfalls put you in a meditative state. “We have to train our brains to help our bodies relax,” says Marie Steinmetz, MD, who heads an integrative primary care practice in Alexandria, Virginia. If you need an extra hand to find your happy, peaceful place, Dr. Steinmetz recommends listening to guided imagery recordings by psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek (HealthJourneys.com).
6. Pay It Backward
7. Destress Your Face
“Women don’t realize how much tension they carry in their jaw,” says Elizabeth Tanzi, MD, codirector of the Washington Institute of Dermatologic Laser Surgery in Washington, DC. “If you clench a fair amount of the time, over the long run it can cause hypertrophy, or thickening of the muscle on the side of the cheek, and change the shape of your face.” Chin up—it’s easy to relieve the pressure. When you apply moisturizer, gently massage the muscles along your jawline, under your ears, in a circular motion. (It’s easy to find the spot: Clench your jaw and it’ll pop right out.)
8. Redefine Downtime
Rid yourself of that stuck-in-a-rut feeling by throwing a wrench into your daily routine. “Downtime is simply any enjoyable deviation from the typical demands of your day,” says psychologist Dan Baker, PhD, author of What Happy Women Know. Look for opportunities to make those precious moments happen—and we really do mean moments. Spend just five minutes on the phone with a friend you haven’t talked to in a while, take the dog for a late-afternoon bonus walk around the block, take a more scenic route on your drive home from work once in a while. “Even a slight change in routine can bring big benefits,” points out Dr. Baker.
9. Channel Carol Channing
There’s a reason grandes dames like Carol or your sassy great-aunt are so unflappable: Everyday annoyances are no big whoop when you’ve been there, done that. “They’ve learned what’s really important and, when faced with adversity, don’t ask, ‘Why me?’ but ‘How can I learn and grow from this?’” Dr. Baker explains. You’ll get there too…eventually. Until then, try to adopt that “so what” attitude whenever you feel yourself getting riled up about something small. You’ll be amazed at how well it works.
10. Say It to Make It So
Remember the famous line from the movie Field of Dreams? “If you build it, he will come.” The same thinking holds true with your choice of words. “Just as smiling has been shown to change your mood, language can do the same,” says Loretta LaRoche, author of Lighten Up. What you say and how you say it steers your state of mind. So when a friend asks, “How are you?” don’t refer to your usual script (“OK, I guess” or “I’ve got so much to do today”). Instead, say how you want to feel as if you already do (“I’m fantastic!”). “You not only convince others, you convince yourself too,” she says.
11. Take a Power Nap
You know you could use it, but you insist on powering through your day anyway. Bad idea, says Jyotsna Sahni, MD, a physician who specializes in sleep medicine and women’s health at Tucson’s Oro Valley Hospital and Canyon Ranch wellness center. Your brain needs a breather in much the same way your muscles do when you are working out. There’s definitely a point where overdoing it leads to diminishing returns. A little shuteye clears the fog and reenergizes you to tackle your daily tasks much more effectively.
But be sure to limit your midafternoon snooze to 20 or 30 minutes (set an alarm just in case), Dr. Sahni says. Any longer and “sleep drunkenness” will make it difficult to rouse from your nap and hard to fall asleep at bedtime.
12. Wake Up with a Hug—Literally!
Toss your covers aside, bend your knees, bring them to your chest and hug them close to your body with your arms. Hold the pose for 20 to 50 seconds, then release and repeat, says Yazzi. This stretch hits all the muscles in your body— and it feels great. What better way to start the day?
13. Go to Recess
Kids get a break during the school day. Why shouldn’t you get one too? So head out to your backyard, plop down on the grass and just chill. One huge advantage of the great outdoors: no power outlets. Just you and nature. Natural environments turn down the static of everyday life, wake up your senses and calm the constantly whirring frontal lobes of your brain.
14. Make Over Your Mindset
You spend your days caring for everyone else, and you know where that leaves you? At the very end of the line. It’s time to give yourself permission to cut the line for your own TLC—and don’t be stingy about it. “There’s a huge difference between self-care and selfishness,” explains Dr. Baker. “If you can’t be good with yourself, then you can’t be your best with others.” In other words, don’t let guilt spoil your self-pampering. Doctor’s orders.
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In watching the Early Morning Show this morning I was alarmed to find out that FINE lil Mr. Justin Bieber has gotten himself into a boatload of trouble. Poor baby now all those people that was riding on his every note want to put him out of the country. That’s right they have an online petition goin to revoke this boys green card. Now what the hell! That boy ain’t did nothing more than any other of these messed up post teen child stars have done. They idolize these people as if they were gods and then turn their backs when the get into any kind of negative news worthy situation, which shows that yep they were man all the time. But it’ not like us as a society to be hypocritical or anything now is it?
Just like I said when everyone was in an uproar about Miley twerkin on the MTV awards; if we as parents would act like parents and stop letting our kids get all sprung out on all these people then it wouldn’t be so bad when they express who they really are or maybe just grow the hell up. I mean most of these kids were babies when they came out into the spot light. They can’t grow up and do them. You know how you were when you we 18-24 (which by the way is scientifically the age of true maturity)? Hell as soon as I flew the coop I did whatever I thought I was big and bad enough to do. Ain’t nobody talked about taking Lindsay Lohans crazy ass’s citizenship and she ain’t making no kind contribution to to society in years, hell she can’t even help herself, LOL.
At least the boy can sing his lil ass off and he’s a nice lil piece of vanilla eye candy. So to all those who are trippin on Mr. Bieber I say to you LEAVE THAT BOY ALONE!
Ok next news worthy topic. I can’t even type for laughing at this dumb broad. Ok let me pick myself up off the floor. Alright composure… So there was this chick that was working at a McDonalds.
I don’t know in what city or state but anyway. She was a Mc Donald’s employee that work drive thru who was busted for sell heroine in happy meals. So she created a code the person would come through the drive through window and ask to buy the toy then they’d pull up and pay $82- $80 for the dope and $2 for the meal and they’d get their lil happy meal box with their score in it. WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW! Well somehow she got busted. They found with the dope and all. Poor girl. Got locked up and lost her job too. I bet she didn’t see that one coming. I wonder how long she got away with it? As I reflect on that she actually wasn’t that dumb. That was a very creative idea. Bet she didn’t see that comin.
She was servin some REAL Happy Meals! LMFAO! Bahd Dah Daht Dath Daaah, I’m Lovin It!
I’m telling you this has already been a morning full of laughter for me and its only 6:00AM where I’m from. Well finally. There was a report of a New York Rep. Michael Grimm caught on tape threatening a news reporter for asking a question about his campaign finances being fishy. This dumb as dude threatened to though the reporter over the freakin balcony. SaY wHaT? Yes over the balcony and it was on tape. He said some other choice words as he threatened him as well. I knew New York was a tough place but damn when their public officials are clown like that what can you expect the citizens to act like. I’m just sayin. Welp there go his chances for reelection or so you would thing. I bet he gets voted back in strictly because he showed that he’s bout it!
Well that’s your laugh worthy news for the day. Have a fantastic day and a safe beautiful weekend. Stay warm and don’t be tryna slip and slide everywhere this weekend. If you not from a place that enables you to know how to drive on the snow sit yo but down some where cause guaranteed you gonna run across ten more idiots out the just like you who don’t know what in the world they doin and boom there goes somebodies car crashed. Oh last tid bit: 4X4 is great for helping you get unstuck but does nothing for the slick stuff just FYI.
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